“Happiness is not a matter of intensity, but of balance, order,
rhythm and harmony.” -Thomas Merto

There has been so much written, said and sung on the topic of HAPPINESS – but I have never heard it in the context of BALANCE – ORDER – RHYTHM –  HARMONY.

But when you think about it, doesn’t it make sense? Our high levels of stress, tension, anxiety. overwhelm and ‘infobesity’ have definitely not helped our sense of BALANCE. Mums are struggling to balance their family with work, social life and the feeling  of responsibility for others in their care: they have to make choices every minute of every day:

Shall I cook something healthy or shall we have take-away tonight?

Do I take on this job and contribute to paying back the mortgage? or do I stay home with the children?

Is it more important to clean the house now? or go to the playground with the kids? or call a friend? …

Every choice either adds to the balance or diminishes it.

Each choice a man makes has the same impact, not only on his own balance, but that of every single member of his family, his work place, his community.

A healthy balance leads to an orderly life. Order has often been associated with ‘boring, structured, inflexible, or even opposition to a feeling of being ordered’.  However, ORDER is much more – and without it, freedom and happiness are hard to achieve. Order can be likened to an anchor that allows the mind and spirit to soar.

ORDER: Things are in their proper places, proper positions and proper conditions.

Once you have decided on your priorities in life and where you are at your most valuable, happy, productive and contributing from the heart, you have defined the word ‘proper’. YOUR PROPER can become the guide book in your daily decisions: Next time you have to make a food choice, take a deep breath and decide then, what would be the proper place, the proper way and the proper meal. Where would be the proper place to work, what would be the proper position in that work place and what would be the proper conditions?

With a life in order, there follows a RHYTHM  – a kind of sequence where things follow each other in the sense of importance that has been created by you. When life doesn’t need to be lived on red alter – Management by Crisis – a happy rhythm will lead to the HARMONY we are striving for. The Rhythm in life are our habits. Do the habits in your life support the proper order that you have established? Most people don’t take the time to create the stage for their LIFE, have no impact in the script, the fellow players and/or the harmony and peace they crave. They believe LIFE happens while they make plans. Does life really just happen randomly and some people just happen to pick the shorter straw? 

I am starting a Happiness Project end of February, where  the participants will be staying at the Entrance/Nautilus Penthouse and slowly, with a weekend every second month, map out a new roadmap to their own happiness. In between they will have time to practice the new projects and concepts. They will gain mindfulness, laser-sharp focus, new knowledge and wisdom and their order of importance/priorities. I’ll be blogging about it to keep you updated.

Just follow; #thehappinessproject


Author: Barbara Hoi

I have worked for 14 years with Dyslexic and Asperger geniuses one-on-one, founded Sydney Dyslexia and Autism Sydney, worked in Mosman and at a beach retreat at the Entrance and wrote three books on Dyslexia ('the Right Brain for the Right Time', 'Nurturing the Secret Garden' and 'Learning your Times Tables in Three Bold Steps'). I believe these children and adults have a great gift and the ability to become leaders in their field. But I have also found that a proper diet as well as educating and working together with parents, friends and teachers matters even more. I am now working with small groups at the Entrance Beach Retreat, helping dyslexic adults fulfill their professional dreams and parents to help develop and nurture their child's potential.

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