Don’t you love that explanation of self-responsibility? It has become the reason and the essence of the content of my new book: ’90 Shades of Gratitude’, a gratitude journal with a difference. Believing that we are responsible for our reality may not be an easy pill to swallow, but at least most people believe that the way they react to that reality is a choice – and that choice has a great effect on their future. But what if we could stop re-acting or seeing life simply in terms of cause and effect – but instead start to cause an effect? The 90 Shades of Gratitude is exactly that: a re-conditioning of our automatic responses by pre-paving our day with gratitude, that is guided by a short contemplation every morning and rounded off with gratitude of the experiences and surprises of the day.
Goethe on self-responsibility
“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.
It is my personal approach that creates the climate.
It is my daily mood that makes the weather.
I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.
I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.
I can humiliate or humour, hurt or heal.
In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated,
And a person is humanised or de-humanised.
If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.
If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.”
— Goethe 1749-1832